How Can an Unethical
Hypnotherapist Con You?
More and more people seek help from Hypnotherapists.
Perhaps you are one of them and you have your own personal
horror story?
Unfortunately, not all hypnotherapists are ethical and there
are many who are dysfunctional, self-eluded and egotistical.
And, unfortunately, those kind of Hypnotherapists have
comfortable life styles, all paid by you.
It is my hope that as a practicing Hypnotherapist of over
thirty years, that this article will help you to avoid those
kind of Hypnotherapists, or at least to run as fast as you can
from them once you realise you are being conned.
SOME GUIDANCE TO FINDING THE RIGHT HYPNOTHERAPIST
The very first thing you must do is use your common sense and
listen to your gut feelings. If a Hypnotherapist claims to be
able to 'cure' you of a myriad of ailments, then ask yourself a
simple question, "Who does the 'curing', yourself or the
therapist?'
The answer is so obvious. Nobody can 'cure' you without your
permission and therefore it is yourself that manifests the
'cure'. All good therapists will only claim to be able to
'help' you to make the right decisions to effect any
'cure'.
You will notice that I have used inverted commas with the
word 'cure'. The reason is that a reputable Hypnotherapist
never uses that word as it implies that the ailment will no
longer exist or return. That is so much nonsense as all
ailments, no matter what, are capable of returning.
A reputable hypnotherapist will only claim to be able to
help you resolve the ailment and get back to as normal a life
as possible.
BEFORE MAKING AN
APPOINT - WHAT TO LOOK FOR
1. If you know of anyone who has already received therapy
from a Hypnotherapist, ask about the therapy, but not personal
details. In other words, only ask for an opinion and not what
was done or discussed during the therapy. Nobody wants to
discuss their personal details, unless you are a very close and
trusted friend. A recommendation is far better than any
advertisement.
2. If you cannot find anyone to give you a recommendation,
look for advertisements in your local press. Do not take the
first Hypnotherapist you find as the only one but look for as
many as you can. Now follow your gut feelings and chose at
least three.
3. Phone each one and ask how long they have been in
practice. If it is a short period, ask what work they did
before that. It is amazing how many Hypnotherapist's adverts
carry qualifications that have nothing to do with Hypnotherapy,
so also ask what their qualification initials are.
4. Now this is very important. Ask the Hypnotherapist for a
contact number or an address so that you can check out their
qualification. This is the crunch! An unethical Hypnotherapist
will dodge the question and mislead you. An honest
Hypnotherapist will readily give you full details, especially
about his or her training. Remember to ask how many study hours
were involved in his Hypnotherapy Training and some form of
reference to the training college. Honest therapists are proud
of their training and qualifications and never hesitate in
giving you any details you ask for.
5. Check the qualifications until you are satisfied and only
when you are happy, make a booking, but do not, repeat do not,
commit yourself to more than one session. If a Hypnotherapist
insists that any treatment given takes more than one session
and you have to pay in advance, do not make a booking. An
ethical Hypnotherapist who knows what he or she is doing, never
asks for money up-front. Indeed, they may not even ask for
payment until after the first session is complete and even then
you may notice an element of embarrassment. The caring
therapist hates handling the money aspect.
YOUR FIRST SESSION -
WHAT TO LOOK FOR
The first thing that you should always look for in a
Hypnotherapist is professionalism. The keyword to that is
simply 'respect.
If the Hypnotherapist is showing you respect, he will ensure
that the session belongs to you and that your are 'the most
important person in the room.'
The therapist will also ensure that his consultation room is
clean, tidy and free of unusual noises, such as somebody in the
next room shouting or the smell of cooking.
He or she will also ensure that you feel both physically and
mentally comfortable. I've heard of Hypnotherapists that sit in
comfortable arm chairs whilst his client sits on a hard chair
because some idiot Hypnotherapy Trainer has told him that the
client should not be too comfortable to prevent falling asleep.
What an insult.
The Hypnotherapist should also show respect by dressing in a
presentable way, and cleanly. Some Hypnotherapists think it is
ok to wear dirty jeans and a crumpled t shirt because it is
'cool'. The days of therapists wearing suits and the men
wearing ties, are far gone. but a clean, open-necked shirt is
acceptable and there is now no need to wear a jacket. If the
therapist is untidy, dirty and smelly, don't continue - walk
away!
Everyday noises such as traffic, sound of vendors in the
street outside the consultation room are acceptable as they
will soon fade into the background under hypnosis and not be a
problem. But people shouting and cooking smells inside the
house or building are a problem as they can raise all sorts of
anxieties in a venerable client.
If the Hypnotherapist asks you to pay in advance for the
session, be wary. You could and possibly should ask if you can
pay at the end of the session. If he or she disagrees, then you
can be sure there is something to hide, especially if you are
asked to pay in cash.
Again, if you are asked to pay up-front for a number of
sessions, establish the true reason for it. It is possible that
the treatment you are about to be given requires more than one
session and would not be successful with only one. For example,
I always suggest to my students that three sessions are
required for permanent release from the smoking habit and to
protect reputations, the three payments should be paid on the
first session. The payment ensures the client returns for the
necessary three sessions.
During the session, look for 'ego stroking'. By that I mean,
is the therapist stroking his own ego telling you all about his
own greatness in the field of Hypnotherapy, or is he
concentrating on your problem and trying to find a way of
helping you. I believe it is in order for a Hypnotherapist to
let the client know that he has succeeded previously with a
similar ailment as that installs confidence in the client's
anticipation of success. But if he or she tells you about a
hundred cases he has cured and how everybody in the world
thinks he is the best thing since cut bread, don't believe
him.
A good Hypnotherapist is a humble one.
CONCLUSION
So, taking all of the above into consideration, you should
find yourself being treated by one of the most effective and
wonderful therapies available to you and by an ethical and
professional Hypnotherapist.
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"Robert Shields, is the Principal of The Robert Shields
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