Hi, Robert Shields here writing to you from the U.K.
That Is Not What I
I'm Sure my
Memory Is Correct!
It is a well
known fact that witnesses to an traffic accident sometimes describes the
accident in totally different ways. For example one witness
will say the cars involved were green or black and another witness will say the
cars were blue or red. The drivers would be described as having blonde hair, but
another witness would swear one driver had red hair and the other black.
You may find this
strange as the event being described happened in the past
and cannot be changed. So why are the
descriptions so different?
The answer lies in
the way our memory functions.
Some psychologists will
say that we remember everything we see, hear, feel or
do. Everything is stored in our
Unconscious Minds and only some of out memories are suppressed for various
Indeed, it is a common belief that using hypnosis can bring
to the surface those memories that are suppressed and any small insignificant
event that has ever happened in our life
We would all be raving
lunatics if everything that has ever happened to us was
stored in our memory banks, no matter how incredible the
memory’s storage capacity is.
So, the simple fact is
the memory, that is part of our Unconscious Minds,
filters what it stores.
Imagine a trap door
between the Conscious Mind, the part we are fully
aware of, and the Unconscious Mind, the part that
contains your memory.
Now call that trap door
Your Ego is conditioned
by the way we live and how we are influenced. Because of
this conditioning, only that which is acceptable to the
Ego is permitted through that trap door and into or out of the
For example, if we lived
in the Amazon Jungle, walking around naked would be
acceptable, but to do so in a ‘civilised society’ is
unacceptable. When the weather
is very hot, the Conscious Mind may think that it would
be better to be naked, or semi-naked, as it would be much
more comfortable. But the Ego is
conditioned to believe that would be unacceptable and so
it refuses the Conscious thought to enter the Unconscious
Mind as were it to do so, most people would be walking
around naked when it is extremely
hot. If the thought did get into the Unconscious Mind, it would then
send a signal through the Ego to the Conscious Mind saying 'Ok, do that!'
This also applies to
what is stored in your memory as even that has to be
filtered through the Ego. As you
read this, look away and look to your right for only a
second. Now how much of
what you saw is now in your memory? My guess is, very
little. Your Ego would not
have seen very much that is of importance to
Supposing your Ego has
been conditioned into believing bad people always dress
in black. In my youth,
good cowboys in movies always had a white hat and bad
ones a black hat. So when
describing a past event chances are that your Ego would
have filtered what went into the memory and changed some
details to comply with its conditioning. A bad guy’s light
hair may become dark hair.
I have had many clients
asking me to help them recall ‘lost memories’ by using
hypnosis. In some cases it
has been a simple procedure. Regress back to
the incident and relive it.
But in many more cases,
a memory could not be recalled. Sometimes a
very traumatic memory will not surface into the Conscious
because the trap door (Ego) will not open and allow
it. However, a good
Hypnotherapist knows how to open the trap door and that
is the wonderful thing about using hypnosis.
But, don’t be fooled by
what surfaces as a memory.
Remember, everything in
your memory is filtered and may not be exactly what
actually happened. Even fantasying or wish-fulfilment can be at
work here. Your Ego may also
be at work, changing what enters your Conscious Mind to
suit your personal needs and fantasies.
Every one of us at some
time or another has a memory that we know is not true.
tell a story of how we stood up to a bully and felt no
fear. The bully in
your story is big and ugly. However the truth
is the bully was average and not at all ugly and you did
feel fear. But your Ego
is protecting you and changing the facts to give you a
boost in your self confidence.
from your Conscious Mind (the reality) into your
Unconscious Mind (where your memory is) may not be all
true and even a lie detector cannot tell the difference
as you absolutely believe what is in your memory to be
know all this and that is why they will use methods to
distort your memory and cause you to doubt if it is the
truth. For example,
they know your Ego is not interested in the colour of a
person’s shoes, so they will ask you why you cannot
remember that and yet you remember other items of
You don’t believe
me? Just ask a married
couple to describe what was said in a fierce argument
they had a week ago and you will get almost totally
different stories. I know this to be
true for as a Clinical Hypnotherapist I stopped seeing married
couples separately for just that
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